by Heather MacDonald Norman (Eileen’s daughter-in-law)
Marriage is not always pretty. You get to see the absolute worst in someone. You see them when they’re mad, sad, being stubborn, when they’re so unlovable they make you want to scream. But you also get to see them when they’re laughing so hard that tears run down their face, and they can’t help but let out those weird snorting noises. You see them at 3 am when all the world ‘s asleep except you two, because you’re taking turns walking a sick kid across the floor for the millionth time. You get to see the side of them that no one else does and it’s really, really not always pretty. It’s snorting while laughing. It’s tears when it feels like the world is crashing down around you. It’s the farting, the bedhead and the bad breath. But it’s also the random Lindy Hop dances 15 times a day to make your kid smile. It’s anger and joy.
Marriage isn’t always a beautiful thing, but it is AMAZING.
It’s knowing that someone loves you so much, they’d walk through fire for you, and won’t leave even though you just said something nasty. It’s having someone have your back no matter what. And though it’s fights over stupid things, it’s also those nights when you fall asleep in each others’ arms feeling like there will never be enough time with them.
It’s cleaning up their throw up, the kids throw up, the dogs throw up (SO MUCH THROW UP), or just rubbing your spouse’s back and telling them it’s going to be okay when the world is cruel. It’s the hardest, but most rewarding job there is, to be married and raise a family. Because, at the end of the day you get to crawl into bed with your best friend, the weirdest, most annoying, loving, funny, perfectly imperfect person you know.
Marriage is not always pretty but it’s one hell of a ride, and I would marry you all over again without batting an eye.
And because seven year old Bella made me break it down, it’s: Happy 18th Anniversary or
I love you Tommy Norman and our perfectly imperfect life.