A Jesus Kind of Love

The most incredibly kind and gentle people I have met are the personnel at nursing homes. They are often overworked, because this is a ministry, not a job. Unless someone feels called to this, they don’t last. And if the administration of a nursing home is only about profit, not their patients’ whole physical, mental, emotional and spiritual selves, even the called may have to find another place to minister. Which means that nursing homes are often short staffed.  At the Meadows in Nashville, where I was for therapy after my shoulder was broken in three places and now my husband is in Hospice care for terminal cancer, we have encountered amazingly loving care and a shared sense of everyone’s call to be a channel of God’s love.From the administrative and nursing personnel to the techs and maintenance staff and all in between, we have been surrounded by tender concern and care.  Old age’s infirmities wipe out the masks of image and appearances that separate us from one another’s core human vulnerability. When someone can wipe our bottoms with the same tenderness and love we gave our newborns, we know we are loved. When they take time afterward to hug us with a smile, asking if there is anything else they can do, we feel blessed, not humiliated. I think in Jesus’ time and culture, a man washing others’ dirty feet was this kind of love.

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About Eileen

Mother of five, grandmother of eleven, great-grandmother of five. 1955 -1959 Rice University in Houston, TX. Taught primary grades; Was Associate Post Director of Religious Education at Ft. Campbell, KY; Consultant on the Myers/Briggs Type Indicator; Presently part time Administrative Assistant/Bookkeeper for Architect husband of fifty-nine years.

Posted on September 29, 2018, in a Jesus kind of love, blessings, Healthcare, Love, nursing home techs, our core human vulnerability, Parenting, spirituality and tagged , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 5 Comments.

  1. It’s wonderful to hear of this loving care. Unfortunately, the care ‘industry’ (sadly, the word, industry, is apt in the way it often farms the aged and the vulnerable) is not always caring. Recently, I have been listening to Do Not Reject Me In My Old Age – Chesnokov. https://youtu.be/xDNoTyMyGbM I wonder if you might find it as comforting as I do. The lyrics are based on Psalm 71.

    • I agree the “industry” fails to be a ministry when it becomes all about profit.
      My mother was in a nursing home for 7 years after we took care of her for 7.
      I took training to be an Ombudsman to try to figure out what I could realistically
      expect from an institution. The care there was wasn’t much different when the administrator
      was changed after the home owned locally was sold to NHC. I was not that impressed with either administrator, nor NHC.
      Interestingly enough, The Meadows when I was there was locally owned and is now a part of NHC.
      I don’t know for sure what has made this one so good now. I think it is the young administrator who is very visible and knows all the patients and has hired a lot of new people who were not there when I was there two and a half years ago. He is being transferred to another NHC home in the area in a few weeks. I am anxious to see what difference, if any, that makes. He happens to be the son of the CEO of NHC! This NHC has a Foundation that helped us financially to stay there when Julian no longer qualified for Medicare. It is owned by the Church of Christ. I have never been a fan of that particular denomination, but this experience has definitely made me question my prejudice.

      • I think we are often given compassion and care from unexpected sources. One of the best care homes I have encountered actually belongs to the community in which it is situated. And it is mostly funded by the community. The Government provides funding as well. I am interested to hear you took training to be an Ombudsman.

  2. What an uplifting and wonderful thing to read. Thank you and blessings to both of you.

  3. Heartening story of the ministry offered by devoted staff you and your husband encountered. Too bad this is fairly often not the case.

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