Forgiveness, the Heart of Love and the Core of Christianity

In the Gospel of John, when the risen Jesus appears to the frightened disciples, he says something unexpected and amazing. He tells them, if they forgive anyone’s sins, they’re forgiven. But if they don’t, then they aren’t. This isn’t power, this is responsibility. Jesus has spent three years trying to make them understand that receiving forgiveness and forgiving others are inseparable. In his agony on the cross he prays, “Father, forgive them for they know not what they do.” That prayer was not only for all those who played a part in his physical crucifixion that day, but for all of us who continue to crucify him in each other.
The humbling, often heartbreaking, recognition of the harm we have done to someone is designed to bring the life changing acceptance of God’s forgiveness that gives us the grace to forgive others. It’s all one spiritual process. Sometimes, our first clue to what we need to ask forgiveness for is what we cannot forgive in another.                                           And over and over the message is the same: forgiveness is the heart of love, the core of Christianity, the gift of the Holy Spirit, and it’s our commission. And there is no escape clause in the small print even about forgiving repeat offenders. Remember the seventy times seven?
In the Gospel of Matthew Jesus says, Whenever you are praying, forgive if you have anything against anyone, so that your Father in heaven may also forgive you your trespasses. This isn’t just a whim of God. It’s a cause and effect that was designed into the human condition.                                                                                                                                   Listen closely. Jesus died so that we might be forgiven, but in order to accept forgiveness, we have to admit humbly and sorrowfully when we need it, so we can be freed by grace to pass forgiveness on. This is the key to the kingdom of heaven that Jesus gave us, because all fall short of the glory of God.

Note:  Forgiving a broken person does not mean allowing them to abuse you or anyone else.  God forgives them, but doesn’t remove consequences that can make them recognize the need to change.

About Eileen

Mother of five, grandmother of nine, great-grandmother of five. 1955 -1959 Rice University in Houston, TX. Taught primary grades; Was Associate Post Director of Religious Education at Ft. Campbell, KY; Consultant on the Myers/Briggs Type Indicator, Was married for 60 years to an Architect in Middle Tennessee.

Posted on April 23, 2017, in Answered Prayer, Forgiveness, hope, Love, Paradox, rebirth, relationships, Saved by grace and not by law, spiritual growth and tagged , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 3 Comments.

  1. with due respect for your Christian faith, Eileen, I do believe that we can/may forgive, but… we won’t forget who or/and what has hurt us, as sometimes the wounds never close up! otherwise, I do admire and respect people who both forgive and forget…
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    my very best and have a serene week, stay healthy and optimistic! 🙂


    • The problem is that even when deserved, hating hurts us in ways we don’t even perceive. It doesn’t mean we don’t learn some self protection with some people. I remember a friend whose father was horrible, an alcoholic abuser of all types. He died in a fire and she was glad. One day she came to me with great joy and shared that unexpectedly while praying, she had forgiven her father and it was like a giant weight was lifted from her heart. Sometimes we don’t realize when we have an inexplicable dislike for someone, that they have in some small way triggered an unconscious memory of a person who hurt us. Forgiving frees us and being forgiven can free others in healing ways.


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