Giving the Devil His Due: Senator Alexander’s Response to My Letter on Same Sex Marriage

A Mother’s Plea to Not Reinforce Prejudice and Precipitate Violence

My Letter to our National and State Congressmen and to the Editor of the Tennessean and our Senator Lamar Alexander’s letter in response.

1. Freedom for and from religion are the same thing. We need to protect that freedom.

2. Homosexuality is not a choice. My great-great aunt became a pediatrician and established a clinic for the poor in the early 1900’s. She lived with the same woman all her life. My brother has been in a twenty-five year monogamous relationship with another man. My son and his partner of seventeen years teach children born HIV positive in South East Asia. Legal recognition of same gender commitment relationships is crucial on many levels, from health insurance to the same degree of acceptance and safety from persecution that heterosexuals have. A return to legal reinforcement of prejudice could very well precipitate violence.
3. I want all people to experience the unconditional love of God expressed in Jesus, so He can become their Lord. History shows that making people pretend Christians by law, violence, judgment, or discrimination does not accomplish that. If we could make and enforce secular laws against making pleasure a God, many heterosexual people would be in legal trouble. The purpose of marriage is a committed relationship, not just pleasure. Let’s support that.
4. Married to the same man for fifty-eight years, I have come to believe marriage is designed not to just populate the world, but to challenge and enable us to really know and love another imperfect (not abusive) person. Let’s not limit anyone by law to deceit in order to experience that.

Alexander’s Response possibly indicates he may have actually read my letter.

Dear Eileen,
Thank you for getting in touch with me and letting me know what’s on your mind regarding the Supreme Court’s decision on same-sex marriage.

I believe that the states, not the courts, should be responsible for deciding how to define marriage. However, the U.S. Supreme Court’s ruing is now the law of the land. Congress will have to carefully consider the effect of this ruling on religious liberty and religious institutions.

I’m grateful you took the time to let me know what is on your mind regarding same-sex marriage and I’ll be sure to keep your comments in mind as this issue is discussed and debated in Washington and in Tennessee.,


Lamar Alexander

Maybe he read my letter and this response is his and not an aide’s. It’s the only response I’ve gotten from Senators or Representatives at state or federal level that even slightly sounded like someone actually was responding to what I said. It encourages me to continue writing on other issues also.

I have been calling, emailing, and writing letters and post cards. The responses to my emails didn’t make sense. The calls were answered
by interns politely and were hopefully at least counted. Letters get slower responses because of security checks, but they may be what actually gets read. I plan on keeping on doing all of the above.

About Eileen

Mother of five, grandmother of nine, great-grandmother of five. 1955 -1959 Rice University in Houston, TX. Taught primary grades; Was Associate Post Director of Religious Education at Ft. Campbell, KY; Consultant on the Myers/Briggs Type Indicator, Was married for 60 years to an Architect in Middle Tennessee.

Posted on March 26, 2017, in B4Peace, faith, fear, forcing Christianity on others., Gay marriage, homosexuality, Jesus, Justice, Love, marriage, Political, prejudices, relationships, Saved by grace and not by law, Sex, spirituality, violence and tagged , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 10 Comments.

  1. Keep it up, dear friend. And God be with you.

    Love, Myra


    • You were on my mind so much this morning. I miss you. Write me an email or message on face book and let me
      hear about you and yours. You cannot die before me… are my oldest friendship…….I’ll lose our history without you.


  2. Good for you, Eileen, good for you!

    Big hugs



  3. Wonderfully open letter, Eileen. Your personal experience makes it powerful I do think Senator Lamar’s response is thoughtful. I’m impressed with your commitment to letter writing.


  4. Your letter is brilliant. Have you considered sending it to a local/town/city newspaper as a Letter to the Editor? I think it should be read by more than the Senator’s aides….(I’m not convinced that the Senator read it, and if he did, in my mind it deserved a stronger supportive answer!!! )


  5. impressive and emotional post, dear Eileen… ❤ you may have heard of the great writer-philosopher Simone de Beauvoir, Jean-Paul Sartre's friend… she stated:“In itself, homosexuality is as limiting as heterosexuality: the ideal should be to be capable of loving a woman or a man; either, a human being, without feeling fear, restraint, or obligation.” – QED.


    • I agree. Have a granddaughter that seems to be bi. For one thing physical sex for fun or stress relief is one thing, but emotional sex in a commitment relationship is another. And some time sex can open us up to the universal, which takes a vulnerability and love that may not be possible in all gender combinations for everyone.


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