Victim Mentality

Being a victim is not a choice, but remaining a victim emotionally and mentally is.
Some people seem to get addicted to a victim self-image. It becomes their identity.  But a victim mentality not only excuses us from taking responsibility for ourselves, it gives all our power away.

If you listen to someone who has fallen into this trap, you can hear the suppressed anger. Women particularly, but to some extent most of us, are convinced that anger is bad, even sinful.
But anger recognized and claimed can be ours to control, to express, and to turn into something creative and empowering.

To cling to a victim mentality is to remain a helpless child.  While reasonable anger channeled in practical ways can change injustice for ourselves and others. Anger’s power and the responsibility and accountability that go with it can be our doorway to maturity and effectiveness. The change starts with recognizing and claiming our anger. Then, we can begin to work toward finding our own process to not only deal with our anger, but to turn it into a power for good.

I’m hoping that some of you reading this will comment and share things that can help others experience this transition and even impact others.

About Eileen

Mother of five, grandmother of nine, great-grandmother of five. 1955 -1959 Rice University in Houston, TX. Taught primary grades; Was Associate Post Director of Religious Education at Ft. Campbell, KY; Consultant on the Myers/Briggs Type Indicator, Was married for 60 years to an Architect in Middle Tennessee.

Posted on July 19, 2016, in Addictions, Creativity, fear, Healing, hope, Justice, Mental Health, rebirth, spiritual growth, Suffering and tagged , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 4 Comments.

  1. There’s a lyric in a song by my favorite band MY CHEMICAL ROMANCE that reminds me of this: get off the ledge and cut the line, not a victim of a victims life

    All depends on how we view ourselves and rise above our predicaments.really nice post!


    • Thanks. My Chemical Romance is one of my granddaughter’s favorites.


      • She has great taste. They got s bad rep in the past for always having dark imagery and lyrics. People Thot they were goth or suicidal or something. But no. Every CD has lyrics that can inspire people more Than I believe any other rock band can. One such is
        “I am not afraid to keep on living. I am not afraid to walk this world alone.”
        Yeah they can be dark sometimes but there’s still a lot of hope in there


  2. Wise words Eileen.. x


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