Saved or Loved? Need or Love?

Words have such different meaning for each of us. I’m not very comfortable with “saved.” For one, it sounds like I’m finished, so why am I stuck here? For two, it sounds like now I belong to the in crowd, instead of the rest of the human race. I never was much on being with the in crowd, because it seemed to require trading my individuality for a false sense of pride or security.

To me the message of Jesus was: Humanity is loved unconditionally. Loved unconditionally means you are of eternal value…..it is not a short term thing.

If I’m loved unconditionally, then why wouldn’t I just do whatever I feel like doing?

Because once I experienced that kind of love that is beyond human understanding, it changed everything. Nothing else comes close to that joy….no pleasure, no fame, no drug, not even a parent or spouse’s love. Life is about learning and growing, but particularly it’s about being emptied so we can be totally filled, full to bursting with the joy of that love.

Whether I am a thimble, a tea cup, or an ocean won’t matter, because I will be full.

We learn to love, when we discover that we are not only loved, but that we are of eternal value, so we aren’t limited to a life span. We don’t have to grab all the toys, pleasures, friends, fame, success we can in our limited time on earth. They are here to enjoy, but they are only snacks, not the main course. They are the junk food of life……and though on any given day, in our humanness they may help us temporarily get through a scary place, if we don’t regroup and once again turn to that Love Beyond Understanding, that we call God, we become addicted and make them our whole diet and then there is no room for the joy of love.

Loving others, not just as we love ourselves, but as Jesus loved us, is what makes room for joy. It involves letting go of the bling, of the snacks, so we can be filled with the joy of loving.

I don’t think we can love someone we need. If we need them to be a certain way and they can’t, what happens then?
If we are weak, we are needy. Weak is not being afraid, but being controlled by our fear of pain or suffering. There are a million addictions, probably a hundred per person, that we use to blot out pain, whether the small and shallow or the overwhelming and deep.

But to be controlled by fear of pain means never risking loving someone, because love doesn’t fear not being loved, it fears hurting with the one we love, when we are helpless in the face of their pain. Love increases our vulnerability a hundred fold. Love means letting our fortress walls fall to ruin because it is not the enemy they keep out, it is love itself, the caring more about another than protecting our tender inner self.

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About Eileen

Mother of five, grandmother of eleven, great-grandmother of seven, 1955 -1959 Rice University in Houston, TX. Taught primary grades; Was Associate Post Director of Religious Education at Ft. Campbell, KY; Consultant on the Myers/Briggs Type Indicator; Presently part time Administrative Assistant/Bookkeeper for Architect husband of fifty-seven years. Blog: Laughter: Carbonated Grace

Posted on January 23, 2014, in Addictions, Love, Spiritual, Suffering, Teaching/Learning Experiences and tagged , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 12 Comments.

  1. Interesting post! And yeah, a complex topic in simple terms, good one!

    If you have some time, pls drop at my scribble ; http://yourstoryclub.com/short-stories-for-kids/children-short-story-little-goldie/
    *Mridubala*

  2. Beautifully put. Thanks you for putting down what it means to love so all can understand.

    • Thanks for keeping on reading and commenting. Hope you are hanging in there with graced moments. Miss you. Life just runs off and leaves us chasing after it sometimes, doesn’t it?

  3. Can’t really add to this, Eileen. Beautiful, insightful truths borne in joy.

    • Holistic Wayfarer, Thanks so much for being such a faithful reader and for your affirmation. It really makes it worth while when someone “hears” me.

  4. Reblogged this on Laughter: Carbonated Grace and commented:

    More retro posts…..Sometimes I need reminders….a touch of spiritual Alzheimer’s?

  5. Thank You, Eileen, for following my blog, i appreciate it deeply
    and i’m happy to have found you.

    Best Wishes

    john

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